Can I have my cake and eat it too? A question I find myself asking lately. I mentioned in one of my earlier Lifestyle posts, that I was/am job hunting. After a couple of months job hunting, I can say that I have come to have a better understanding of the what sort of jobs I would like to do, the industry I would love to work in, and even better, specific companies I would like to work.
Getting to this point was not something I can say I did on my own. It took a lot of research, job applications, a number of interviews, and consulting with industry personnel. This is one of those things they don’t teach you at business school…a topic I will get into in another post.
With all the consultations and research, I still found myself indecisive about where I want to work, which country. Do I want to stay in Canada or do I want to go somewhere else? Having lived in Japan and traveled parts of Asia, I feel like there are so many opportunities out there, loads of adventure waiting for people willing to take the leap. I feel I am one of those people. I want to meet and connect with people from different parts of the world, I want to travel to different parts of the world to discover new places and cultures. This is what I imagine an international career path would bring…at least in the countries I have been considering. On the other hand, with this lifestyle comes the price of missing home. I can’t count the number of times during my studies in Japan when I wished I could be with my family, watch movies with my siblings on a snow day.
The more I think about it, the truth is that in the time I have been home, apart from during the summer when almost everyone was home and had a bit more time, I find myself alone more than I had imagined. I guess my imagination never did consider the fact that everyone would be busy with their lives and wont really be together in the same place at the same time as much as I imagined or dreamed it to be. Even if I do stay here to work, reality is, I would also be busy and none of that would happen anyways…at least not as much as I expected. If I leave, I can kind of ‘have my cake and eat it too’ I can live in a different country and have many adventures, all while still being able to stay connected with family. I can Skype with them, get them tickets to come visit me and come home to visit on holidays.
At a meeting/consultation I had recently, the individual said something that put my mind at ease a little. He said something around the lines of ‘yes family is important and you will miss them, but technology has made it position to ‘reduce’ that distance. There is Skype. There are many opportunities out there and now, at this age, is the right time to take them.’ So what is stopping me? Me. I am stopping myself. I think of the of the things I could miss, which to me, is watching my brothers grow, being there for their little milestones and helping them whenever I can. But the truth is, they are living their lives and I should live mine. They never asked me not to leave…maybe the youngest one, because he’s adorable when he wants to be. I should let them be themselves, be independent, learn to do things themselves. Being away does not mean I am not part of their lives, it just means I am not there at their present moment. Technology has made things a lot easier. All I have to do is make sure to set aside some time to call in to checkup on them, always have my line available for them to call whenever and most importantly, make sure to remember home and visit or vice versa. Having gotten this point, I will be ok with whatever happens, if I stay or leave.
If you are in the same position, subconsciously holding yourself back from taking that step and blaming it on external factors, you should really ask yourself, ‘What is stopping me from taking that big leap?!’ If you REALLY think about it, you will find the real answer to your question. That is the first step in figuring out how to ‘have your cake and eat it too’.
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